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My mom is still here but everyone else packed up and left this morning. My mom will still be here for a couple weeks or more to resolve things, and while we'll have a number of things to do, we'll have a fairly relaxed weekend before we get into any of that. A less stressful day or two will be welcomed. Posted at 11:17 AM
My grandmother's funeral was this morning. It was a nice ceremony, and my brother-in-law played two trumpet numbers, my niece read the 23rd Psalm and an old Gaelic poem, and my nephew sang How Great Thou Art. My grandma would have been overjoyed with the service. I've only just now been ab;le to sit for a moment, the past two days being quite full. I still have more to do today to wind things up, but then my sister and her family will drive home tomorrow, and I'll be able to wind down a bit and relax. Next week will bring new work transitioning my grandma's estate to my mom, but that should move along ion many ways ewasier than all that had to be done this week. I'm going to miss m y grandma terribly, but she's at peace now, and that makes up for any sadness. Posted at 3:37 PM
The viewing will be this afternoon. I bought a new all-black outfit last night so that I could look good and proper for my grandma's last hurrahs, and I think everything is now prepared for. My sister should be returning any time now with her husband and my nephew and neice, and we've made contact with what little exten ded family there is on my grandma's side of the family and a few of those people will arrive today as well. I'm growiong more solemn today as the minutes pass, but we've been telling great stories about my grandma since the moment of her passing, and we've truly been abl;e to celebrate and enjoy the truly wonderful life she lived and shared. Yes, she will be missed, but she left us all with so much that there's really no room for sadness with so many wonderful memories. Posted at 10:56 AM
It's only just Noon and already we've been busy completing a bunch of tasks to have everything ready for the funeral. There's still more to do yet this afternoon and evening, but then we should be set - which is a good thing since the rest of the family arrifves tomorrow, the viewing is tom orrow, and the funeral is Friday, and then my sistewr's whole family heads back to Maryland Saturday. It won't be chaos, but it will be a busy (and emotional) rest of the week. Posted at 12:10 PM
My grandma died last night. My mother and I were visiting with my grandma at Providence Care Center when my sister got into town. She had driven from her hom in Maryland and came straight to the center, and we let her in around a quarter to nine. We spoke briefly and my sister went to stand in front of my grandma, leaned down, and just as she was about to speak my grandma opened her eyes for the first time all day. My sister spoke to her, then my mom moved in front of her and spoke, and then me. After all three of us had spoken her breaths slowed even more than the already very shallow breaths she'd had all day, and within a minute she was gone, just faded away. She was very peaceful, and I'm quite sure she had been holding on until we were all together with her before she let go. While last night was difficult for all of us, we weathered it well and were already reminiscing - remembering the good life my grandmother had lived. Today, amidst more celebratrory memories of her life, we have been running around like crazy to make arrangements for her funeral, burial, obituary, and more. Much of this was already arranged and paid for years ago, yet there's still heaps to do. It's good to be kept busy in a way, but it's almost too much along with everything else. The viewing is set for Thursday from 4-7 PM and the funeral will be Friday at 10:30 AM in her church, Trinity United Methodist. There's a lot to do before then, and in some ways even more to do afterward, at least for me. It's going to be an insane month. Posted at 5:04 PM
My grandma's breathing is quite shallow and moist but she's soldiering on. Still, it's not likely to be much longer before she gives up. We got called at 5 AM last night with concerns about her breathing and a belief she would fade fast, but she's still going. There's really no predicating things at all, but it seems hard to believe she will last long since she keeps slowing down further and further. Fortunately with care and a couple medications she seems quite comfortable and peaceful and she's slept all day today so far without waking. I feel more awkward and anxious than ever now, and it's a crazy feeling. I soldier on as well. Posted at 1:52 PM
I don't like thinking about the past - missing the good moments and being depressed by the bad moments. I don't like looking to te future with it's complete uncertainty and likely great difficulties and struggles. And I don't like having to think about the present which is currently so unpredicatable, so emotionally up and down, and so filled with anxieties. No point in time holds any comfort or hope. How am I supposed to deal with that? Posted at 8:55 AM
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May 19, 2012
theDREAMER
name: paul cales
since
october 1, 2001